Archive for the ‘Love and Marriage…professionally’ Category

JD, Ph.D., MD, MBA.  Let’s face it.  When African American men and women achieve this type of academic credential and meet each other, the attenaes go up!  The assumption: he or she understands exactly what I am going through.  Ok, Ok..l.et me stop playing – TRANSLATION: Someone on my level!  Arguments arise: Black women are too picky; Black women need to lower their standards; Black women need to understand that the majority of brothers are working class.  Black men don’t want a Black woman with the same credentials as they.  Black men at that level are already married…to White women!  However, professional Black men are also on a search for a Black woman who essentially “gets it”: Her intellect, social graces, Mercedes/BMW/etc., and mortgaged property are subtle indications that she has a 6-figure income, a 401K and knows what to do with it.  Of course we’re not as naive to believe that all those things a great partner makes; but it’s a great beginning!  The struggles are similar; the expectation to be 10 times better is critical to upward mobility; and to be that beacon of success to the remaining Black family and community who is on the way, is a pressure both understand.  How nice would it be for each to find one another to weather the storm with while enjoying the fruits of their labor; lifting while they climb:  To be that support and shoulder to cry on; to allow that Black man to be the leader in his household when his authority at work is consistently undermined; to allow that woman to shine in the boardroom – but for her to acquire the wisdom to turn it off when she gets home.  More than a great financial statement, a home in an exclusive community, and an access never imagined, Black professionals need each other as they move toward the mark…more than many may believe.